I love you, but I don’t need you to be happy and full of life. I know people think that happiness is synonymous with fulfillment in love, but it is not. Today, I know I can be fine without you.
Movies, culture and society in general have instilled in us the idea of destructive love. In reality, love should only bring happiness.
Because of these misconceptions, many people have become emotionally dependent on their life partner.
I don’t need you to live
There is a well-grounded idea in our consciousness that suffering is a component part of love, but it is not. This myth has been spread endlessly and can be summed up in the famous phrase: “I can’t live without you.”
The fear of loneliness and failure in love can lead you to accept in your life the first person that comes your way. This is how emotional dependence manifests itself. You move quickly from one relationship to another, because the feeling that no one loves you fills you with anxiety. But anxiety disappears when you start a new relationship.
If you find yourself in the description above, one thing is clear: the love you feel is not genuine. What is the solution in this situation? Avoid falling into the following traps:
Have you ever wondered why everything goes great at the beginning of the relationship, but then things go downhill? The answer is the idealization of the partner, who is seen as the prince or princess in the story.
In the first stage of the relationship, ignore the things you don’t like about your boyfriend or girlfriend. You think you can get over them or you hope they change. In this way, you create a love that is not true, because you look at your partner only in a positive light and see only what suits you.
You may have an emotional weakness that directs your attention only to the aspects you need. Therefore, ignore other important elements.
The need to be in a relationship can lead to low self-esteem. This can have unpleasant consequences in all aspects of life. This need becomes essential, practically the most important thing in your life. If you do not achieve this goal, your entire universe will fall apart.
Your world revolves around the perfect relationship. If it doesn’t work, failure takes over, and your self-esteem suffers.
For people with low self-esteem, falling in love turns into a process that completely takes over. They feel the need to dedicate themselves entirely to their partner, risking injury.
In the absence of self-esteem, you are not able to impose certain limits. Thus, you end up suffering a lot in love.
The relationship I am in is not my entire universe. That’s why I don’t need you.
You may know that being in a relationship is not the center of a man’s universe. But this belief is so ingrained in your conscience that it is very easy to make the mistakes presented above.
You can live very well without anyone around. If you get out of a relationship, you should even take advantage of the status of a single person. In these moments, you can get to know yourself and reflect on the recently concluded relationship. This is the only way to mature and realize what you liked and did not like about the previous relationship. In this way you accumulate some teachings that will be useful in the next relationship.
The need to be in a relationship often darkens your judgment. Thus, you no longer appreciate the moments when you can focus only on your own person.
When you are alone, you have the opportunity to learn an important lesson. You must always be able to tell your life partner, “I love you, but I don’t need you.”
Have you ever tried not to be in a relationship? Are you afraid of loneliness? If you need another person with you to live your life, you will never be happy. You will disappoint yourself, and this is the biggest mistake you can make.
The only person who is always with you is you. Stop neglecting yourself and start loving yourself.